An Intro to The First Time Mum - All The S**t No One Tells You
Updated: Jun 22, 2020
Hi and welcome to my new blog!
I'm starting this blog when my son is 8 months old, in the midst of a crazy pandemic lockdown. It all started as I began to feel more comfortable sharing my experiences of postnatal life with my best friends and started talking about some elements of what happens after you have a baby on one of our many lockdown Zoom calls. I'm a kind of "warts and all" story teller so started sharing everything (all the literal blood, sweat and tears) and quickly realised that my friends, like I had, had no real knowledge of what postnatal life had in store. I was 28 when I had my son and the first of my best friends to have a baby and I know I would have appreciated knowing more about what I was going to face but I didn't really have anyone to tell me. I thought birth was going to be the hard part - how wrong was I!
After sharing some elements of postnatal life with my friends they encouraged me to write a blog. I wasn't sure if I would have enough to say so I just started writing everything I could think of in a Word Document and it flew out of me (quite akin to how my son did!). I found it so cathartic writing everything down. Following his birth I suffered with both postnatal anxiety and depression and, although I did quickly seek and have treatment, looking back and writing everything out felt like a therapy in itself.
Now, as ever with these types of things, this is my experiences. Everyone has different experiences - different births, different babies - but this is just my stories and my thoughts. I had no prior experience of birth or babies really until I had my own and I was so fixated on the birth itself, as I think a lot of particularly first time Mum's are. I didn't really think that far ahead about life after. I do also think there is sometimes an element of not wanting to "scare" Mums-to-be about what will happen once your baby has exited your body but I truly know I would have appreciated knowing more going in! So if warts and all isn't your style this probably isn't the blog for you.
So here we go - who knows how long this will last, or if anyone will read this, but if it even helps one person feel any sense of normal in the Fourth Trimester carnage, or prepares another first time Mum for something they didn't know so it's not scary when it happens after they've had their baby, then it'll all be worth it.
Looking forward to speaking to you all again soon!